Mon, 08 Feb 2010 11:59:44 +0000
Youth Sports Goal Settings
New Year's day means different things to different people.
Certainly, spending time with family and friends and watching
some great college bowl games. In our house, a new year also
means making resolutions.
It started about 15 years ago when my wife and I were on a ski
trip together ' before kids. It was one of those days in Taos,
New Mexico where the snow was coming down so heavy that you
couldn't see your hand in front of your face. For some people,
the fresh powder might make for great snow conditions, but for
us, it was a great day to sit by the huge fire in the ski lodge
and 'plan our lives'.
We had a great talk that included when we wanted to have kids,
financial planning and lots of resolutions ' including our goals
for work, working out, sports, and how we wanted to work out our
relationships with the people in our lives. Believe it or not,
we sat there for 9 hours and we had fun doing it. Now, every
year, we talk about goals with our kids.
All of our kids already have goals, but they may not share them
with us. Our job as parents is to help them focus on the correct
goals, help them achieve their goals, and later, we need to help
them deal with the disappointment of not reaching their goals.
Goal Setting With Kids The first thing we need to work on
with all of our kids is education. For each kid, at every age,
they can focus on their schoolwork; improve their skills, and
getting their homework done on time. Of course, they can also
work on their relationships with parents and their siblings '
something that never seems exactly where it should be. However,
as you know, we at SportsKids are all about youth sports ' so
let's focus on sports.
All the kids I know say they are going to be professional
athletes. Now, there are some kids who say they are going to be
doctors, lawyers, business people, the president of the United
States, or something else, but again, this is SportsKids. My
eight year old son, who doesn't really know who Danny Ainge is,
wants to follow in his footsteps and be both a professional
basketball player as well as a professional baseball player.
Now, maybe some of our kids will end up being professional
athletes, but the statistics say otherwise. Most kids won't be
playing organized sports past the age of 12. Very few high
school athletes will ever play NCAA Division I sports and almost
none of those will ever play professionally. Knowing this, of
course, shouldn't diminish our kid's dreams ' that's what they
are supposed to be doing ' dreaming! So, as parents we have to
help our kids reach their potential.
How Should We Help Our Kids? Keith Hirabayashi is a good
friend of mine. Many of you may not know who Keith is, but if
you like martial arts you would know; he has been five time
Grand Champion at the US World and US Open Karate Tournaments.
He was named Weapons Competitor of the Decade, thanks to his
expertise with the staff, the broadsword, and the
three-sectional staff. He's a member of The Black Belt Hall of
Fame, The Inside Kung-Fu Hall of Fame, and The Fighter Hall of
Fame. In addition, he's been listed among the 100 Most
Influential Martial Artists of the Last Century by Black Belt
magazine. I've had many talks with Keith about goal setting and
how he reached the pinnacle of his sport.
Nobody who starts out is great their first day, but they can
think big. The trick, as Keith taught me, is to break your dream
into manageable steps ' something that's hard to do, but
achievable. When Mr. Hirabayashi first started Wushu as a boy,
he couldn't envision becoming 'Competitor Of The Year' so he
started with something easier. There was a kid in his class who
was 'great'. So, Keith wanted to one day be as good as that guy.
One day, he was that good. Then, he wanted to be as good as the
assistant teacher.
Finally, he surpassed his teacher, became the best in the world
and now founded Champions Martial Arts, a studio in Brentwood,
California.
In order to accomplish each of these resolutions and goals,
there are a few rules that you need to follow. You need to know
what you are trying to accomplish. The goal needs to be
specific, measurable, and have a time limit. A person also needs
to know why they want to reach the goal and then lay out a real,
manageable plan on how to accomplish their goal.
Being a great martial artist, or being great at anything,
requires a plan. Start by setting small goals to ultimately
reach a larger goal and understand each step. A kid needs to
layout a plan for practice, competition and study of their
sport. Realizing that practice makes permanent, parents need to
make sure their kids are practicing the right fundamentals.
Playing a sport only during the organized practices and the
games won't get a kid to reach their potential. If your child
plays an instrument, you wouldn't allow them to not practice
between lessons. 'Pistol' Pete Maravich, one of the 50 greatest
NBA players, practiced literally all the time because he knew
that some other kid was practicing and getting better than he
was. Set small, measurable and achievable goals, lay out a path
of how the goals will be accomplished, and then watch the
results.
Dealing With Disappointment Starting with the premise
that our kids aren't going to reach their ultimate goal of
becoming a professional athlete should in no way diminish the
benefits of dreaming, setting goals, and working to accomplish
each of the resolutions. It's imperative not to forget the many
benefits to playing youth sports, including teamwork, good
sportsmanship, developing motor skills, learning to win and to
lose, and the friendships that are created along the way. Most
of our kids will figure out and realize for themselves that they
won't be a professional athlete, but if we help them set small,
achievable goals, practice proper fundamentals, and set out a
specific plan to accomplish their goals, all of them will
benefit and maybe some will actually be able to fulfill their
dreams. It all starts by setting your New Year's resolutions.
About the author:
Ken Kaiserman is the president of SportsKids.com , a leading
youth sports website featuring games, sports news, sports camp
and league directories, community features, and the
SportsKids.com Superstore with over 150,000 products.
Ken coaches youth football, basketball and baseball. He also
serves on the local little league board of directors as well as
the Park Advisory Board.
Youth Sports Goal Settings
New Year's day means different things to different people.
Certainly, spending time with family and friends and watching
some great college bowl games. In our house, a new year also
means making resolutions.
It started about 15 years ago when my wife and I were on a ski
trip together ' before kids. It was one of those days in Taos,
New Mexico where the snow was coming down so heavy that you
couldn't see your hand in front of your face. For some people,
the fresh powder might make for great snow conditions, but for
us, it was a great day to sit by the huge fire in the ski lodge
and 'plan our lives'.
We had a great talk that included when we wanted to have kids,
financial planning and lots of resolutions ' including our goals
for work, working out, sports, and how we wanted to work out our
relationships with the people in our lives. Believe it or not,
we sat there for 9 hours and we had fun doing it. Now, every
year, we talk about goals with our kids.
All of our kids already have goals, but they may not share them
with us. Our job as parents is to help them focus on the correct
goals, help them achieve their goals, and later, we need to help
them deal with the disappointment of not reaching their goals.
Goal Setting With Kids The first thing we need to work on
with all of our kids is education. For each kid, at every age,
they can focus on their schoolwork; improve their skills, and
getting their homework done on time. Of course, they can also
work on their relationships with parents and their siblings '
something that never seems exactly where it should be. However,
as you know, we at SportsKids are all about youth sports ' so
let's focus on sports.
All the kids I know say they are going to be professional
athletes. Now, there are some kids who say they are going to be
doctors, lawyers, business people, the president of the United
States, or something else, but again, this is SportsKids. My
eight year old son, who doesn't really know who Danny Ainge is,
wants to follow in his footsteps and be both a professional
basketball player as well as a professional baseball player.
Now, maybe some of our kids will end up being professional
athletes, but the statistics say otherwise. Most kids won't be
playing organized sports past the age of 12. Very few high
school athletes will ever play NCAA Division I sports and almost
none of those will ever play professionally. Knowing this, of
course, shouldn't diminish our kid's dreams ' that's what they
are supposed to be doing ' dreaming! So, as parents we have to
help our kids reach their potential.
How Should We Help Our Kids? Keith Hirabayashi is a good
friend of mine. Many of you may not know who Keith is, but if
you like martial arts you would know; he has been five time
Grand Champion at the US World and US Open Karate Tournaments.
He was named Weapons Competitor of the Decade, thanks to his
expertise with the staff, the broadsword, and the
three-sectional staff. He's a member of The Black Belt Hall of
Fame, The Inside Kung-Fu Hall of Fame, and The Fighter Hall of
Fame. In addition, he's been listed among the 100 Most
Influential Martial Artists of the Last Century by Black Belt
magazine. I've had many talks with Keith about goal setting and
how he reached the pinnacle of his sport.
Nobody who starts out is great their first day, but they can
think big. The trick, as Keith taught me, is to break your dream
into manageable steps ' something that's hard to do, but
achievable. When Mr. Hirabayashi first started Wushu as a boy,
he couldn't envision becoming 'Competitor Of The Year' so he
started with something easier. There was a kid in his class who
was 'great'. So, Keith wanted to one day be as good as that guy.
One day, he was that good. Then, he wanted to be as good as the
assistant teacher.
Finally, he surpassed his teacher, became the best in the world
and now founded Champions Martial Arts, a studio in Brentwood,
California.
In order to accomplish each of these resolutions and goals,
there are a few rules that you need to follow. You need to know
what you are trying to accomplish. The goal needs to be
specific, measurable, and have a time limit. A person also needs
to know why they want to reach the goal and then lay out a real,
manageable plan on how to accomplish their goal.
Being a great martial artist, or being great at anything,
requires a plan. Start by setting small goals to ultimately
reach a larger goal and understand each step. A kid needs to
layout a plan for practice, competition and study of their
sport. Realizing that practice makes permanent, parents need to
make sure their kids are practicing the right fundamentals.
Playing a sport only during the organized practices and the
games won't get a kid to reach their potential. If your child
plays an instrument, you wouldn't allow them to not practice
between lessons. 'Pistol' Pete Maravich, one of the 50 greatest
NBA players, practiced literally all the time because he knew
that some other kid was practicing and getting better than he
was. Set small, measurable and achievable goals, lay out a path
of how the goals will be accomplished, and then watch the
results.
Dealing With Disappointment Starting with the premise
that our kids aren't going to reach their ultimate goal of
becoming a professional athlete should in no way diminish the
benefits of dreaming, setting goals, and working to accomplish
each of the resolutions. It's imperative not to forget the many
benefits to playing youth sports, including teamwork, good
sportsmanship, developing motor skills, learning to win and to
lose, and the friendships that are created along the way. Most
of our kids will figure out and realize for themselves that they
won't be a professional athlete, but if we help them set small,
achievable goals, practice proper fundamentals, and set out a
specific plan to accomplish their goals, all of them will
benefit and maybe some will actually be able to fulfill their
dreams. It all starts by setting your New Year's resolutions.
About the author:
Ken Kaiserman is the president of SportsKids.com , a leading
youth sports website featuring games, sports news, sports camp
and league directories, community features, and the
SportsKids.com Superstore with over 150,000 products.
Ken coaches youth football, basketball and baseball. He also
serves on the local little league board of directors as well as
the Park Advisory Board.